Porn is degrading? Yes!

Christian conservatives are always saying that porn is degrading to women, that the women who perform in these films are degrading themselves, that they’re being exploited. This sounds awfully sexist to me. Here’s the $64,000 question:

Why isn’t porn degrading to men? Why aren’t the men who perform in these films degrading themselves? Why aren’t men being exploited? After all, they have their huge schlongs hanging out for all the world to see. Is this any less degrading than showing off breasts and vaginas? Men are engaging in sex acts to the same exact measure as women. But only the women are being degraded?

Moreover, female stars typically make more money because they are much more in demand. And yet, men aren’t being exploited? They should demand equal pay!

The Christian conservatives insist that women who perform in these films were victims of sexual abuse in the past. I see. So men who perform likewise were NOT victims of sexual abuse? Why the dichotomy?

Implicit in their one-sided criticisms is the fact that Christian conservatives are terribly sexist.

Now the word “degrading” is interesting. The way the Christian conservatives use it has a derogatory connotation: to be degraded is bad and hurtful. However, most people understand that self-debasement is a common theme in lovemaking. For example, S&M is degrading, and yet many people enjoy this kind of sex. Some people enjoy being urinated on. I’ve seen instances where men enjoy being trampled by the woman, even going so far as to stomp on his testicles! Then there’s “kinky” sex, one example being people who like having their flesh pierced and hung up on hooks! Talk about degrading.

And what about “pony play?” Maybe it’s just me but being treated like a horse seems pretty degrading to me.

I don’t pretend to understand these people’s mindset, but I understand the innate desire to express one’s sexuality in whatever way the imagination allows. Who am I to judge? Whatever floats your boat. Different strokes for different folks. As long as the sex is consensual and no one gets hurt, whatever happens in the privacy of your bedroom goes. From this standpoint, degradation and self-debasement are perfectly acceptable.

Even “normal” or “regular” sex can be considered degrading. Anal sex, for example, is kind of out there, isn’t it? And I have say, the submissive position of doggie-style can look rather degrading (but highly stimulating!).

The fact is, the degrading of the man or woman in the sex act is a very normal part of lovemaking. It is simply the acting out of sexual fantasies. Lovemaking, after all, is adult play. And when you play, you are limited only by your imagination.

How, then, is this degradation worse when the sex act is depicted on film? I’d love to hear your response.

– RKE

(This opinion belongs solely to the author and does not necessarily reflect the views of The Good Sex Network.)

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