Comments on: An Invitation to Illumination http://goodsexnetwork.com/archives/2009/02/an-invitation-to-illumination/ Thu, 12 Aug 2010 13:40:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: admin http://goodsexnetwork.com/archives/2009/02/an-invitation-to-illumination/#comment-58 admin Wed, 18 Feb 2009 22:24:36 +0000 http://goodsexnetwork.com/archives/?p=326#comment-58 George, it sounds like you could really use our services. Your situation is too complicated to give a simple answer here. I invite you to visit our <a href="../../../../" rel="nofollow">primary website</a> and register in order to get substantive help. Best Regards. George, it sounds like you could really use our services. Your situation is too complicated to give a simple answer here. I invite you to visit our primary website and register in order to get substantive help. Best Regards.

]]> By: George http://goodsexnetwork.com/archives/2009/02/an-invitation-to-illumination/#comment-57 George Tue, 17 Feb 2009 13:12:49 +0000 http://goodsexnetwork.com/archives/?p=326#comment-57 I agree that education is extremely important. In our case, both my wife and I had an extra marital affair and a few days ago we confronted the facts realising that we both cheated on each other. The strange thing is that we love one another deeply but in the past years we have not had at all much of a sex life. With her I suffer from extreme premature ejaculation, she had constantly tried and tried times and times again and in the past years has started to tell me that I am pushing her away, I am making her afraid to have sex with me and then when we used to do it she would burst into tears out of frustration and lack of fulfilment. I started reading all sorts of stories and documents on how to extend the sexual act but that did not work. I tried pornigraphy and self stimulation and that worked but when I had to perform with my wife the same results. I had an affair and I realised that I can be a very good and passionate lover but with my wife it just did not happen. I behaved like a teenager having sex for the first time, all in a rush and unsecure. She had again told me on many ocassions that something must be done or our relationship will suffer and then dissapear.  I just thought that things will get better in time but it only got worse. I have just found out that she had an affair with another man that she then stopped because she still loves me and wanted to see if our relationship can still be saved. I also admited my affair to her, which I also stopped a long time ago but I still feel extremely hurt and betrayed by what she did especially since she admited that the other man had made her feel extremely special and like never before. I do not know what to do. The first reaction is to finish it all and break up but we lover each other and we have known each other for 15 years. We do not have kids, we are still young at only 35 and now we are in the worst situation we have ever had to deal with. I do not want to leave her but I do not know how to foregive her and how to even touch her again without picturing her having an orgasm in the arms of the other man. It is awful and disgusting. I am not expecting an miracle but I could use with a piece of advice coming from your vast experience. Thank you, George I agree that education is extremely important. In our case, both my wife and I had an extra marital affair and a few days ago we confronted the facts realising that we both cheated on each other. The strange thing is that we love one another deeply but in the past years we have not had at all much of a sex life. With her I suffer from extreme premature ejaculation, she had constantly tried and tried times and times again and in the past years has started to tell me that I am pushing her away, I am making her afraid to have sex with me and then when we used to do it she would burst into tears out of frustration and lack of fulfilment. I started reading all sorts of stories and documents on how to extend the sexual act but that did not work. I tried pornigraphy and self stimulation and that worked but when I had to perform with my wife the same results. I had an affair and I realised that I can be a very good and passionate lover but with my wife it just did not happen. I behaved like a teenager having sex for the first time, all in a rush and unsecure. She had again told me on many ocassions that something must be done or our relationship will suffer and then dissapear.  I just thought that things will get better in time but it only got worse. I have just found out that she had an affair with another man that she then stopped because she still loves me and wanted to see if our relationship can still be saved. I also admited my affair to her, which I also stopped a long time ago but I still feel extremely hurt and betrayed by what she did especially since she admited that the other man had made her feel extremely special and like never before. I do not know what to do. The first reaction is to finish it all and break up but we lover each other and we have known each other for 15 years. We do not have kids, we are still young at only 35 and now we are in the worst situation we have ever had to deal with. I do not want to leave her but I do not know how to foregive her and how to even touch her again without picturing her having an orgasm in the arms of the other man. It is awful and disgusting. I am not expecting an miracle but I could use with a piece of advice coming from your vast experience.

Thank you,

George

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