On The View today, the author of a new book called “Oral Sex is the New Goodnight Kiss” was interviewed. What an eye-opener!
The author, Sharene Azam, interviewed a large number of young women across the country (and their parents) and gathered substantial data about current social mores. Today’s young women (and young men) have a very lax attitude toward sex. For example, they think holding hands is *more* intimate than oral sex!
Young women also “prostitute” themselves at a very early age. They’ll sleep with older boys for money or designer goods or special favours. To them, it’s no big deal.
These revelations got me thinking: Is it such a big step from this situation to young women growing up to become prostitutes or working in the porn industry?
Obviously, the answer is no.
Should it surprise us, then, that there are so many women anxious to enter the porn industry to make their fortunes? Again, the answer is obviously no.
The reason this issue was raised in my mind was because some while back, I saw a Christian website that claimed women were being exploited in the porn industry. We were told that women in the porn industry had been abused as youths and that’s why they were vulnerable to exploitation, why they would lower themselves to working in such a degrading industry.
When Azam delved into this question, she found that these young women were NOT abused. They came from regular middle-class families and were perfectly “normal.” The fact that they would sell themselves sexually was simply a reflection of the current cultural milieu. It was a sign of the times.
This puts the lie to such Christian groups who attack the sex industry. Not all women are being exploited. Many are voluntarily choosing to work in the industry, and in many cases, that’s their ambition!
Consider the call girls who charge thousands of dollars for their services, eg, Ashley Dupré who serviced Governor Eliot Spitzer. Did she look like she was being exploited?
How about the famous Bunny Ranch in Nevada where hundreds of young women happily make good supplementary income? (They don’t work full-time. They do other things in their life and come to the ranch to work in short two-week stints.)
The distance that prostitution needs to go to achieve respectability is not as far as you might think.
Ditto for exotic dancing and the porn industry. Is it too much to hope, then, that perhaps we are witnessing a growing social enlightenment with regards to sexuality?
I welcome your comments and input.
(This opinion belongs solely to the author and does not necessarily reflect the views of The Good Sex Network.)