Case Example: Meeting Sexual Needs

Doug and Sandra are a hard-working couple in their late 30s. They met in high school and married shortly after she turned 20. Soon, two children came on the scene and they immersed themselves in the usual preoccupation of young couples, such as building a home, settling into jobs, and looking after children. Predictably, their previously exciting sexual life went down the drain. Continue reading “Case Example: Meeting Sexual Needs”


The Roman statesman/philosopher Seneca wrote:

our forefathers…lived every jot as well as we, when they provided and dressed their own meat with their own hands, lodged upon the ground and were not yet come to the vanity of gold and gems…which may serve to show us, that it is the mind, and not the sum, that makes any person rich… No one can be poor that has enough, nor rich, that covets more than he has.

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Who's Nailin' Paylin?

I found this video release, dated Nov. 4 (election day), to be very timely and provocative.

Adventures of a Hockey MILF

The faux Sarah is Lisa Ann, who will be nailing the Russians who come knocking on her back-door. In another scene – a flashback – young Paylin’s creationist college professor will explain a ‘big bang’ theory even she can’t deny!

Drill Baby Drill!

Grand Ole Pussy Party!

Making Ends Meat!

Backdoor Politics!

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Case Example: Getting Hard

Alex, a big strapping guy with a well-trimmed beard was almost 40 when he walked into my office with a complaint of difficulty getting, and keeping, erections. He was an intelligent proud fellow who had been married, without children, and for a number of years had been divorced. On getting back to dating, he initially experienced a variety of awkward moments when he noticed that his erections were not what he was used to; that his penis was not “performing” as it should. Continue reading “Case Example: Getting Hard”

True Liberty

The river of happiness is fed far less by wealth than by the streams of ordinary pleasures. “What keeps our faith cheerful,” says Garrison Keillor, “is everywhere in daily life, a sign that faith rules through ordinary things: through cooking and small talk, through storytelling, making love, fishing, tending animals and sweet corn and flowers, through sports, music, and books, raising kids – all the places where the gravy soaks in and grace shines through. Even in a time of elephantine vanity and greed, one never has to look far to see the campfires of gentle [and happy] people.”

The Pursuit of Happiness, by David G. Myers

Dear God, what have I been missing?! Perhaps the sense of joy that comes, as Garrison Keillor suggests, through more ordinary, ongoing moments of cheer — through identifying with children as they ride their adolescent roller coasters, through laughter and tears shared with friends, through work created and completed, through daily games of pickup basketball with friends, through happy recollections of Chinese tearooms, of family beach fires, of falling in love.

Realizing that well-being is something other than being well-off is liberating. It liberates us from spending tons of money on fancy SUVs and waterfront beach homes — all purchased in a vain quest for an elusive joy. It liberates us from envying the lifestyles of the rich and famous. It liberates us to invest ourselves in developing traits, attitudes, relationships, activities, environments, and spiritual resources that will promote our own, and others’, well-being.

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“Californication” is one of my favourite TV shows. It stars David Duchovny (The X-Files) as Hank Moody, a lecherous womanizing novelist who, after transplanting himself to California, now has writer’s block. He has a daughter, named Becca, with his former girlfriend, Karen (played by Natascha McElhone). And he’s constantly trying to get back together with Karen. Continue reading “Californication”

Case Example: Learning to Orgasm

Mary, a strikingly attractive young woman, entered my office. Her long, falling blond hair and form-fitting clothes, her radiant smile, and her comfortably self-confident manner all suggested an inherent sexiness. Her boyfriend was also by most standards quite handsome, tall, slim. No one would guess from Mary’s appearance that she had a major problem with sex: she has never had orgasm. Continue reading “Case Example: Learning to Orgasm”

Growing Up Sexually

People are sometimes surprised to hear that our basic sexual attitudes are set by about the age of 5.

Our family of origin will determine such things, for example, as how comfortable we would be with nudity, and with showing our bodies to others, without shame or guilt. If you’re fortunate to have been born in a family where your parents have become comfortable with their own sexual nature and feel “at home” in their bodies, then usually through the process of osmosis the child will pick up the same basic attitudes towards his or her developing physical self. Continue reading “Growing Up Sexually”

What Can Men Learn From Porn?

This is an excellent video that answers the question:

The 5 key lessons are:

1. Porn Can Help Men Expand and Diversify Their Perceptions about Female Desirability.

2. Porn Teaches How to Fantasize.

3. Porn Demonstrates That Taboos Can and Should Be Broken.

4. Porn Motivates Real Sex Education.

5. Porn Celebrates Erotic Pleasure.

Highly recommended. This is one of the best videos I’ve seen.

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Does sex have a future?

Here is an interesting question examined in the light of new scientific research. Perhaps in time the only reason to have sex will be for pleasure. What do you think?

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Dirty Business

Most often, when discussions are held about the adult entertainment industry, it is through a moral filter. Such discussions usually result in deadlock because you will never persuade the moral police that adult videos are acceptable within our society.

I found a discussion that looks at the industry from an economic perspective, and not through any moral filter. It is very interesting and illuminating. Highly recommended:

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