Q: Why do I get an error accessing some videos?

It is not uncommon to experience the occasional “networking glitch.” That’s simply the nature of computers and the Internet. If you get an error while trying to view a video, simply try again. Close the video window and open it again. If the problem persists, please notify us through the Contact Us page.

Q: Why can't I view web presentations in the Opera browser?

Answer: For whatever reason, Google has chosen not to support the Opera browser for its Google Docs services. I suspect it’s because of Opera’s tiny market share and therefore Google couldn’t be bothered to support it (in other words, they’re too lazy). For web presentations, we recommend using the Firefox or Safari browser.

Starting a new relationship late in life

Over the Hill asks:

Dear Dr. Sommers:

Nine months after my wife died, I invited a lady out for dinner. She was someone I had worked with for seven years and a friend of my wife, although younger than both of us. (She was 39.) I respect and like her very much, but found it difficult to get into the routine of asking someone out. Continue reading “Starting a new relationship late in life”

Sex Counselling and Therapy for Single People


Frank G. Sommers, B.Sc., M.D., F.R.C.P. (C)

Department of Psychiatry, Faculty of Medicine
University of Toronto

This is the third in a series of reports.1, 2

“Single” in this discussion is a person, male or female, who has never married, is separated, widowed, or divorced. This paper is based on clinical experience with approximately 100 such patients who presented with a sexual problem. Continue reading “Sex Counselling and Therapy for Single People”

My wife can only have orgasms with vibrators

A man asks:

My wife can only have orgasms with vibrators. I feel very inadequate here. It is causing a very big emotional problem for me and our marriage. She is happy with the situation, and is not willing to do anything to change this. What can I do to feel better about the situation? Continue reading “My wife can only have orgasms with vibrators”

An issue with erections

C. asks:

Hello, Dr. Sommers,

I am a healthy 26-year-old in a 1-1/2 year relationship. We have sex 1-2x per week. For the last 8 months or so, I haven’t been able to get an erection unless my girlfriend performs oral sex on me. When we roll around in bed it just doesn’t do it for me. Now I think about getting hard when we are together and of course it doesn’t happen…unless she goes down on me. Continue reading “An issue with erections”

Q: Why does the QuickTime plugin fail to initialize in IE7?

Answer: There is a known problem with Internet Explorer 7 under Windows Vista whereby if you try switching video resolutions (from 320×240 to 640×480, or vice versa) the video plugin may fail to initialize and you can’t watch the video. The workaround is to close IE7 and start it again. Our recommended solution is to stop using IE7 and switch to Firefox.

VEST In A Multicultural Community



The Canadian Journal of Psychiatry, Vol. 48, No. 11 (December 2003) (Brief version)

Ontario Psychiatric Association, 81st Annual Meeting, Toronto, Canada, *Best Paper Award, January 17, 2002
American Psychiatric Association, 154th Annual Meeting, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, USA, May 21, 2002
A version of this paper was presented at the XVth World Congress of Sexology, Paris, France, June 26, 2001


The modern practice of sex therapy originally dating from the Masters and Johnson, Hartman and Fithian, Jack Annon, and Helen Singer Kaplan era has revolutionized our approach to the sexually dysfunctional patient or couple. Visually Enhanced Psycho-Sexual Therapy (VEST) aims to further enhance this work, and promote patient recovery. Continue reading “VEST In A Multicultural Community”

Q: Why does my PC (with Linksys wireless connection) crash when I play your videos?

Answer: There is a known problem with PCs running Windows Vista and the Linksys WUSB54G Version 4 wireless adapter. It will cause your PC to crash and exhibit the infamous “Blue Screen of Death.” Our recommended solution is to go to the Linksys support website, download and install the generic Windows driver for this adapter. You may try the following URL: http://www.linksys.com/

Why is sex so important?

by Dr. Frank Sommers

Clearly sex is a powerful inborn impulse in every human being. The drive is innate as we say, but its practise is learned.

Where is one to learn how to behave sexually? In our society, it is common for millions to learn from the media: television and movies, magazines, books and lately music videos, and of course the omnipresent sexually explicit videos which are produced in the thousands by the porn industry. Continue reading “Why is sex so important?”